5 Tips to Feel Confident this Summer

If you take care of the inside, the outside will take care of itself.  We all have flaws and we all struggle in areas where we could love ourselves a little more. With summer in full swing, it can be hard not to feel confident at times. Whether you might have put on a few extra pounds or just feeling overwhelmed, we’ve all been there! There's something beautiful in saying we are "perfectly imperfect." This mindset leaves room for improvement and gives us a little bit of grace because we can be hard on ourselves.  While being happy in your body doesn’t mean it’s perfect, it means you’re embracing your imperfections! With that being said, I thought I would share a few tips to help you feel more confident this summer:

1. Remove negativity:

Submerge your energy with others who uplift and motivate you to be a better person. (Let me say that louder for the people in the back!) It doesn’t do me any good to hang around people who do not have the same mindset. Cut out those toxic people and tighten your circle. I never really realized how important this is.  Why be around people who are unforgiving, not trustworthy, disloyal, don't want the best for you, hold grudges, aren't happy for you, are manipulative, have lying spirits, are never happy, or think they're perfect?....I could go on forever!   Your body, spirit, and soul needs positive influences.  What you listen to and who you listen to is important.  I stopped seeking advice from people awhile ago.  You know why? Because their advice was wrong, not encouraging, not biblical, insensitive, and simply all over the place.  Why seek advice from people who need help themselves? If you need someone to guide you in a positive direction sis, seek spiritual advisors, someone you FULLY trust, or a therapist.  Sometimes toxic people are hard to get away from because of the circumstances. If this is the case for you, I encourage you to stay strong and to be a positive light for them. Inspire them with your words and most importantly through your actions. 

2. Look good, feel good:

Put effort into your yourself.  Whether you know it or not, doing your hair, makeup, and putting on a fly outfit makes you feel so powerful and confident. Stop making excuses on why you “can’t” dress nice because with little effort and resources you’d be surprised at what you can come up with. Doing a closet clean out can also help with a fresh start, a little shopping never hurt anybody!

3. Go outside:

I like to go for a walk because it centers me. Put your phone away and take in the beauty that's around you.  Listen to the birds chirping and the wind blowing. Look around you.  Notice the flowers, the trees, people walking, and the blue sky.  Whether you are playing outside with your kids or soaking up vitamin D from the sun. If you don’t get enough vitamin D, it can affect the way you feel and how well you perform. Being outside for only 10 minutes a day is better than not being outside at all. Go outside today and breathe in some fresh air! Go for a hike or to the beach with friends, make a day out of it!

4. Listen to motivational podcasts, sermons, or a playlist: 

I love beginning my day with encouraging podcasts and a sermon.  Right now my favorite podcasts are Slay Girl Slay, Girl CEO, and Bigger Pockets Real Estate.  My favorite person I'm currently watching and listening to is Joyce Meyer.  She is hilarious, direct, and just reminds me of a wise grandmother.  I also enjoy listening to gospel, jazz, and soothing music while I'm in the shower or working.  What we listen to affects us!  Trust me I know!  If the last thing you listened to was a 2 Chainz song, you will wake up with his song in your head!  LOL!! 

5. Write in a journal:

Releasing emotion onto paper has many benefits for our mental health. Journaling will allow you to understand your feelings more clearly. No one can judge you because there are no rules when it comes to writing in your personal journal.

You can go back and read what you’ve written and you’ll notice GROWTH every time.





This is exactly what I needed to hear! It’s all the tips for me! Thank you Shanel for such an encouraging blog. Women uplifting each is where it’s at. You look amazing btw 🔥

Tamara Boyd July 30, 2021

It’s the 1 & 2 for me. It’s so necessary to be with people with the same mindset and perfectly imperfect is beautiful. When you look good you feel good. Thank you! You are super inspiring!!

Candice Richard July 29, 2021

Tip #3! and #1 ❤️ Thank you honey. Really good post

Shayla July 29, 2021

All of these tips are much needed thank you. Get us together! LOL 😂

Rhonda T July 29, 2021

I agree with you. Get ready for the day even if you have nowhere to go. It’s makes a difference in how you feel. All of these tips are necessary. Thank you for sharing Shanel ❤️

Tameka Sanders July 29, 2021

Come with it!!!👏🏾

Pamela G July 29, 2021

So awesome Nelly! This is so inspiring and encouraging! Inner beauty is just as important as outter! 😍😍😍😍😍

Willena July 28, 2021

Love your energy and willingness to be transparent

Joanne T July 28, 2021

🙌🏻🙌🏻 I loved all the tips and will be using them

Riley D July 28, 2021

Speak on it 🗣🔥👏🏾🙌🏾 Amazing blog topic! I can’t wait to hear more from you. Keep using your gift to inspire others. We are watching 💕😘

Janiva Kensington July 28, 2021

🙌🏾 Awesome blog! Love your energy

Carolyn J July 28, 2021

Love your blog and love the apparel. Can’t wait for the restock 😚🥰

Kandice James July 28, 2021

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Loved this!

Samiyah Wright July 28, 2021

Your body 😳🔥

Eve Johnson July 28, 2021

Journaling is big for me. You’re right. It’s a non judgmental tool you can use to express your thoughts. Everyone should try it. Great blog. Keep doing your thing

Chana G July 28, 2021

Wonderful blog! 🥰

Naomi July 28, 2021

Shanel this is great 😊 amazing tips, beautiful photo, continue motivating others and being an inspiration 💕

Rochelle July 28, 2021

I love Joyce Meyer too! ❤️ Great blog! Congrats sis

Shannon T July 28, 2021

You and this 🔥

Katherine July 28, 2021


Robin July 28, 2021

Thank you. These tips are necessary and useful. We should all be practicing how to be more confident but most importantly working on ourselves

Athena T July 28, 2021

You are everything! 🔥 and that picture is GORGEOUS 🔥 thank you for the tips

Grace July 28, 2021

Tips 1,2,3,4,5 I needed! Confidence is everything. It comes from within. People can be ugly on the inside and it doesn’t matter how pretty they are, it shows on the outside. We have to do the work.

Evelyn Smith July 28, 2021

Empowered! All of these tips are useful. Thank you

Ella Rodriguez July 28, 2021

Yes, hang out with people that uplift you !!!! This blog is extremely motivating! I love getting rid of negativity, its such a huge impact on our bodies physically and mentally! Thank you for inspiring women ! #feelingempoweredbyShanel!

Michline Hopkins July 28, 2021

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